Why I Don't Burn Bridges
The fire is so temporary, and the world is so small
Recently, I’ve reconnected with at least five people I’ve known for a minimum of 10 years. I met them when I was between 23 and 26, just starting out and willing to learn anything that could help me become… well, somebody. It’s been amazing seeing these women evolve throughout the years. Some have transitioned into another business, some have left corporate to pursue their own thing, but one thread connects us all: an unflinching determination to live a remarkable life. They’re a source of inspiration, yes. Also, at this stage in our lives, they are valuable contacts that could help propel each other’s businesses.
One thing I’m proud of is that I refuse to burn bridges. The only way a bridge is burned between myself and another person is if they do it themselves. As for me, I prefer to leave pathways open because my industry is so small. It’s true. Eventually, I run into everybody, and everybody runs into me. Reputation is the be-all and end-all in business; it’s not worth it to be right or to be on the winning side if it means that one’s reputation suffers for it. Those three things are not the same.
I also don’t think it’s worth it to engage in conflict. It’s better to say nothing than defend one’s self or worse, attack somebody. I mean, what’s the play? Conflict is pointless if there is no clear path to meaningful victory. Oftentimes, this flavor of victory is achieved by simply being consistent in one’s work and letting that speak for itself.
Lastly, you try your best not to take everything so personally. You understand that some people may dislike you for their own reasons, and you acknowledge that you make mistakes because you’re not perfect. However, you always strive to apologize, make amends to the best of your ability, and then move forward.
In the end, the best way to navigate conflicts is to rise above them with grace and focus on what truly matters: your growth, your work, and your integrity. By choosing to stay consistent and letting your actions speak louder than words, you maintain control over your narrative without being pulled into unnecessary drama. After all, the real victory is in building a life and reputation that reflect your values, not in winning every argument.